Today I did one of those things that I irrationally fear doing. I absentmindedly turned on the garbage disposal when my hand was in it. Yep. I did it. Don’t be alarmed, I was not injured. This mishap simply reveals where my head is.
This week (you know, yesterday and today), I’ve been feeling particularly like I’m the complaints department for my children. The thing is, we don’t have a complaints department. No complaining here. None. It’s a serious offense in the Hogan home to complain. Serious offense.
I’m always glad to be a listening ear when things are hard, or didn’t turn out right or there is disappointment. These things happen and I’m the mom. It’s my privilege and joy to hear these things. But complaining is something all together different. Complaining is the posture that you come at life with and truly, it can be deadly.
Complaining says “I am better than my circumstances”, complaining says “I don’t deserve this”, complaining says “I know best” and if that is the truth, then there is no room for joy, there is no room for hope, there is no room for faith, there is no room for a grateful heart. When we approach life with a prideful spirit, we in turn cheat ourselves out of a life well lived. We are blinded to the goodness before us. We are can’t hear the beautiful song playing around us. We don’t understand kindness. Complaining has the power to steal my children’s lives right out of their hearts, leaving them empty. It’s a serious offense.
It’s an offense that is tricky to deal with. Not only because I have a heart that wants to complain, but also because telling a tiny human to stop complaining is like telling a river to flow the opposite direction. I have no power to do such a thing. I do have my words and I do have my actions and I have grace piled on top. I can give a voice to what complaining is actually saying. I can constantly and consistently point out things we are grateful for. I can ask forgiveness for my own complaining spirit.
There is a daily war being waged in the Hogan home and it truly is a matter of life and death. ✨rest in comments ✨