One of my electives this term needed to be a humanities class. I decided take a literature class focusing on texts of various forms surrounding the topics of trauma and recovery. During our very first lecture, we watched the Netflix special Nanette, featuring stand-up comedian Hananh Gadsby AND HELLO DID THAT SHIT HIT HOME. 14/10 would recommend to anyone – even if you can’t particularly relate to the content I can guarantee that you will learn something or be moved in some way.
Hannah starts her show with jokes about her life as a lesbian; feeling isolated in both her geographical and queer communities – not quite feeling like she meets the stereotypical role requirements of either one. Her show eventually delves into deeper topics regarding feminism, sexuality, gender, and violence against women (I won’t spoil anything cause I know ya’ll are all gonna go watch it tn),however she made a comment about being “incorrectly female” that struck a chord.
I didn’t choose to be gay. Something many people to this day still believe.
I do choose, however, to be unapologetically myself every single day.
To be out and proud in the face of adversity.
To dress in a non-gender conforming manner.
To deal with patients at work mis-gendering me (calling me sir/fella/or even the occasional HANDSOME)
To have people question the way I present myself.
I am currently living as the most genuine, comfortable, confident version of myself.
Every day I am doing the work and taking action to become the absolute highest version of myself.
And for that I am proud.
And none of that would have come to be if I hadn’t had to courage to challenge what was expected of me. The norms that were enforced on me.
If you’ve been waiting for a sign to: cut your hair, change your name, change your sense of style, start a new business, slide into someone’s dms… THIS IS IT.
Let’s uplevel babes, cause life is too short to be anyone but the best version of you.