We have been sold a bag of lies with this whole “selfish” gig. No one wants to be called selfish and yet this is the word we see thrown around whenever we see women taking care of themselves, going against the status quo and doing things to grow, transform and rise. This is often the word we use when we have an expectation of someone that goes unmet or meets resistance.
It is hard to believe that everyone doesn’t want the same things we want. It is hard to understand that we all have different values. It is even harder to understand when we see or feel someone outgrowing a story that we have been a part of. Change is certain….growth….well you get to decide. It is okay to take up space, have needs, respect ourselves, limit the amount of drama we surround ourselves with, say no, say yes and change our minds. It is really cool to communicate with people and let them know what’s going on. Beware, they won’t always like it. That’s okay. They will survive. And so will you.
Growing up is hard no matter how old you are. Unlearning the patterns that have kept us in the shadows of our own lives can be terribly uncomfortable. Sometimes it needs to done in baby steps although some prefer leaps and bounds. I’m a bit of a baby step person myself. One thing at a time. Feel it all. You have what it takes. You always have.