This parenting thing has had its interesting moments, add in my chosen career and the comments and assumptions are just one for the books. No my children aren’t robots. Yes they are allowed and do make messes, no they aren’t anxious 24/7, yes they are “allowed” to be children. (Yup I had a parent make that comment to me when we were leaving a swimming party at 8:30pm, after being there for over 5 hours. Apparently I was a fun killing mom for doing that). No my house doesn’t look perfect all the time. I used to be bothered to the core by those comments, now I find it hilarious that so many people, specially mothers, have such strong opinions about others raising their children. And let me tell you I have heard it all! When I’m not fully present I have repeated the same mistake of judgment on others, clearly from my own insecurity. In this age of social media we seem to have a movement of mothers supporting mothers and these same mothers are complaining about mom bullies, but the problem is more present than ever. We are all complaining of feeling less than stellar thanks to these experiences. But are we all to blame as well? My experience is hurt people, hurt people. I’m sure all of us have a list of examples of the not so nice experiences we’ve had raising our babies, but can we take responsibility for when we may have been the problem?
When I was pregnant with my first one mom said “let the mommy wars begin.” I had no idea what she was talking about. Now I have a clear image of mommies at war and frankly the image is ridiculous. We all have real problems, everyday life challenges, things we have no control over, does anyone really have time to focus on what everyone else is doing wrong, instead of focusing on what you are doing right? This post is just a reminder to everyone especially myself that no one is perfect. No life is perfect, no mom or child is perfect. We may have perfect moments and it is in those moments we know that it really doesn’t matter what kind of mom you are. Breastfeeding, formula, organic, non-organic, potty trained at 12 months, or at 4 years old. Early bedtimes, co-sleeping, not sleeping... (finished in comments) 📷 @desireekeoshianph