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Here’s the short version of the central story from the course that underpins the transformation from playing it safe to living boldly.
There are three colors in this world: green, orange, and yellow.
And there are two ways to live: the first way is to be YOU. All of you, unashamedly. Living into your values, beliefs, opinions, and who you want to be. You are owning the lifestyle you are living and just embracing YOU.
When you live this way, you are being green for yourself.
But, there is another way to live.
You think about how you can please the people around you and mold yourself into the person they will accept. You leave your values and opinions behind and show up as the person you think they want you to be.
When you live this way you are people pleasing and not being authentic to who you really are.
You are being yellow for yourself.
Here’s the thing.
When we are living and being yellow for ourselves, those people around us feel yellow for us too.
So while we can fit into any group, we aren’t showing our authentic selves. We’re not offering our opinions or unique ways of viewing the world.
We’re saying, “If you’re OK with me, I can be OK with me too.” Tying our own sense of self worth to whether or not others accept us ultimately leads to a lot of dissatisfaction.
When we live green we are authentically, congruently, being ourselves.
We’re boldly saying, “I’m OK with me!” and we
attract people who are green for us. They hear us, they see us, and they like being around us. They resonate with what we say, seek out our opinions, and share our same values.
We attract people who are true fans of who we are!
Now, if you are living this way, not everyone is going to feel green about you. Some people are orange for you. They don’t get you, they don’t like what you have to say, and they don’t agree with your values, beliefs, or lifestyle. They tend to avoid you. They just aren’t your people. When we are living green, we tend to repel those people who are orange for you.
The secret to living your best life..get rid of yellow!